Silence is Deadly

Guys find it itard to talk about problems and ask for help

Silence can be deadly

Young guys often stay silent about the real issues in their lives – issues we can all have from time to time, like bullying, anxiety, getting dumped or feeling sad all the time.

Young guys suffer from depression and anxiety at around the same rate as young women, around 1 in 4. However, unlike girls, only 1 in 10 guys will talk to someone and get help.

We see too many young blokes suffering in silence – screwing up their school work, leaving school or just feeling miserable – and not getting help. Silence can be deadly, and suicide kills more young guys than any other cause. We don’t want silence to let it get to that stage.

Get more than one person if you can – a close mate, a professional like a counsellor or youth worker or your parents or a teacher. Start talking. It might be hard at the beginning but you’ll be surprised how good it feels to have someone listen and not judge you. Then start feeling better.

Menslink visits schools across Canberra, Queanbeyan and Yass to talk with young guys of all ages about the hassles of life. Don’t think we’re coming to your school? Check with your pastoral care officer or counsellor, or shoot us an email and tell us to come.

Find Support

How can I get some help?

Make sure you get your team together and get the help and support you need.

If it’s a mate that looks like they’re in trouble, let them know you’re there to listen to them and you won’t judge them.

If you see someone who looks like they might need a mate, ask them how they’re doing. Maybe they need someone like you to help out.

  • Start by talking to someone you can trust like a mate, a relative, a teacher or a coach.
  • Counsellors will always listen and provide tips like how to deal with problems, feelings and the people in your life – and they’ll keep it confidential too.
  • Worried or nervous? Don’t think a counsellor will work for you? Try out our resources here, including online chat, phone calls or an app.

Get Help

For 10 to 12 Year olds

Kids Helpline

Kids Helpline is a free, 24-hour counselling service for young people aged 5-25 years. Counselling is offered by phone, email and over the web. Counsellors deal with issues ranging from relationship breakdowns and bullying to sexual abuse, homelessness, suicidal thoughts, and drug and alcohol use.

Youth Beyond Blue

Stress, anxiety and feeling down can affect anyone,
and in fact, happens to a lot of us at some point in our lives.

We all have good days and bad days. However, if you’re feeling sad, down or anxious and these feelings have started to affect what you would normally enjoy or do, then it’s important to find out what’s going on and what you can do about it.

Smiling Mind

“Smiling Mind exists to help build individual mental health and wellbeing through positive, pre-emptive tools based on mindfulness meditation. Co-developed with psychologists and health professionals Smiling Mind is accessible to everyone, irrespective of geographic location or socioeconomic status.”


Menslink supports young Canberran men across our region through our Mentoring Program and our Counselling Service. All our services at Menslink are free – there are no fees or charges and they’re completely confidential.

If you’re having some pretty tough times in your life, our counselling service might be right for you. It’s totally free to any bloke aged 12-25 and you can come and see our trained male counsellor to talk about what’s going on.

Get Advice

For 13 to 18 year olds


Lifeline provides access to crisis support, suicide prevention and mental health support services. Somewhere in Australia, there is a new call to Lifeline every minute. People call Lifeline’s 24-hour crisis support service about many things including Anxiety, Depression, Loneliness, Abuse and trauma, physical or mental wellbeing, Suicidal thoughts or attempts, Stresses from work, family or society as well as Information for friends and family.


Headspace helps younger people who are going through a tough time. If you are looking for someone to talk to and you’re 12-25, you can get health advice, support and information from headspace. With centres all around Australia, headspace can help you with General health, Mental health and counselling, education, employment and other services, Alcohol and other drug services.

Reach out is Australia’s leading online youth mental health service. It’s the perfect place to start if you’re not sure where to look. Every year it helps hundreds of thousands of young Australians with information support and stories on everything from finding your motivation, to getting through really tough times.

Soften the F*ck Up

A great source of video and other stuff about how to have the right conversations with blokes. This site tells it like it is and is an excellent resource.


Menslink supports young Canberran men across our region through our Mentoring Program and our Counselling Service. All our services at Menslink are free – there are no fees or charges and they’re completely confidential.

Our Mentoring Program is available to young guys aged between 13 and 18 years of age. Through the mentoring program, we provide adult male role models for one-to-one mentoring as well as monthly fun activities ranging from movies and games nights through to sailing, rock climbing, surfing and camping.

We visit schools too

Silence is Deadly in Schools

Silence is Deadly is delivered in the school environment by Menslink staff who use their lived experience to illustrate the concepts being discussed in a relatable and safe way.

We want to ensure that they:

  • Talk to their mates about stuff going on in their life
  • Help mates out if they’re going through tough times
  • Get professional help if they need it

The Silence is Deadly campaign was started in 2013 and reaches over 8000 students in 30-40 schools every year. Structured to last approximately 50 minutes, Silence is Deadly sessions are presented around the themes of looking after oneself and one’s friends and can be adapted to focus on issues such as bullying, anger management and self-esteem as required by the school.

Stories and advice are shared in accordance with Menslink’s “Do No Harm” policy. Any participant affected by the session will be referred to School pastoral care staff for attention.

Participating schools are requested to provide a suitable venue for the program that provides comfortable seating for participants and sufficient space for them to move around freely if required.

Schools are also requested to provide a projector, screen and audio facilities to allow the presentation of multi-media content in the Silence is Deadly presentations.

Members of school staff are also required to be present to assist the Menslink presenters and provide support to the participants as required.

Interested in getting Menslink at your school? Send us a message and we will get in touch.

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